Why Scott Stapp's situation needs to be taken seriously.

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As some of you know, Creed frontman Scott Stapp is broke and living in a Holiday Inn (according to a video he uploaded to Facebook last month).
In the video, he stated that people were stealing his money, he is flat broke, and he is living in a hotel. He also stated that he was relying on God until justice is served. He claims that the CIA froze all of his accounts.

Here are the videos that he has put out:

He talks a lot about God, and also makes some unsettling threats against his wife and children. He was placed on a 72-hour psychiatric hold. 

Now, he is back in the news because he threatened to assassinate President Barack Obama. He said that he was ordered to by the CIA (he claimed to be a part of the CIA). His estranged wife tried to have him put on psychiatric hold for that, but it did not happen.

Many people have taken to social media to express their opinion about Stapp's mental state. Many people are making jokes about it. While these videos are a bit 'left of center,' there is a cause for concern for Stapp's mental health.

One thing that I want to reiterate to you all is that mental illness is not a joke. Mental illness should not be mocked or laughed at. It is blatantly obvious that he is troubled. Whether he has a substance abuse problem or not (people have commented that he is probably on drugs), he needs to get some sort of help. 

I'm not a fan of Creed, but when I see someone who is obviously troubled and being mocked, I have this urge to say something, since I have mental illness. Most of you know about my struggles with Bipolar, depression, and panic disorder. The thing that makes me different from Scott Stapp is that I'm medicated, and can recognize when I am spiraling out of control. I can redirect myself to write, paint, listen to music, or clean the house. Keeping myself busy can help me focus on something else, and work through my emotions.

Mr. Stapp needs to admit that he is troubled before going into treatment. In order for treatment to work, you have to be open to receiving help. If you're not open to treatment, you will not get better.

I sincerely hope that he becomes receptive to help. I know things stink for him right now, but it does not last. Things can get better.

Everyone who is mocking him and talking negatively about him, you are not helping the situation. He needs help, not your ignorance. People have been known to take their own lives because of incessant bullying, including cyber-bullying. Please think before you speak.

Can Fish Oil increase brain function in those with Dementia?

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Well, according to a new study published in a journal called Alzheimer's and Dementia, it might!
The study, which took place in Rhode Island, tested 819 people who had MRIs and psychological tests done every six months. Out of the 819 participants, 229 had no cognitive impairment, 397 participants had some cognitive impairment, and 193 participants where diagnosed with Alzheimer's Disease.

After participants were given the Fish Oil and studied for some time, researchers found that the 229 participants that had no cognitive impairment had "increased brain preservation." The participants with mild cognitive impairment and Alzheimer's Disease showed some reduced brain atrophy. The Fish Oil also showed to maintain brain activity in individuals with cognitive impairment.

So, is it worth adding Fish Oil supplements to our dementia loved one's vitamin and medication pill boxes? It wouldn't hurt! Of course, clear it with their doctor first.

Why you should never "feed the trolls."

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Trolling: a person who sows discord on the Internet by starting arguments or upsetting people, by posting inflammatory, extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community (such as a newsgroup, forum, chat room, or blog) with the deliberate intent of provoking readers into an emotional response or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion. --- Via Wikipedia

Most of us have probably encountered a "troll" at least once in our lives. I've encountered many.
Now, I'm not talking about the furry little toy trolls that were popular in the 1990s. I'm talking about human shaped "trolls." Ones who have nothing better to do than to troll someone's social media account(s) and leave scathing remarks for your friends, work colleagues, and family to see.
When you fuel the "troll's fire," they increase their smear campaign against you by commenting on everything you send out. That is the normal "troll" way.
Super-trolls are the ones you need to look out for. These are individuals who message you incessantly, run a smear campaign on your professional social media accounts, and even talk about you on their private accounts. These are folks who do not know you, nor care about your story. If you are acquainted with someone they do not care much for, you are public enemy number one. They devote their time to "trolling" your social media pages. While the initial comments are relatively entertaining, they can get old real fast.

So, how does one rid themselves of "trolls?"

1. Do not engage in a smear campaign against them. Remember that saying, "two wrongs don't make a right?" Be the bigger person and do not engage with the "troll."

2. Block the person. If the troll uses a second account in order to cyber-bully you, report both accounts to the web master.

3. If the cyber-bullying becomes severe, report the account(s) of the "troll," print out their correspondence with you, and contact the authorities. Cyber-bullying is a major issue now, and the authorities do take cyber-bullying very seriously.

Most of the time, "trolling" is easy to combat. It can be as simple as deleting the comment. However, there are those who are relentless. They will not rest until they break you. Remember folks, "trolling" IS a form of cyber-bullying, which is AGAINST THE LAW. Be the bigger person. Remember your rights. Do not give your cyber-bullies power over you.

Now, the reason why I wrote this is because I have a history of dealing with cyber-bullies. If I encounter a "troll" who takes their bullying to a new level, I will not hesitate to contact the authorities.

Today is National Bipolar Awareness Day!

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An estimated 5.7 million people in the United States live with Bipolar Disorder.

A person with Bipolar Disorder experiences extreme mood swings from mania to depression. The mania is associated with abnormal levels of happiness and irritability. Occasionally, the Bipolar individual will experience psychosis with mania. During mania, the individual makes poor decisions and also faces a lack of sleep.
During the depressive mood swing, the individual has a poor outlook on life. The individual may be having thoughts of suicide or self-injury.

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Bipolar Disorder is genetic and environmental factors can trigger the Bipolar mood swings.
Bipolar is a life-long disorder and is stabilized by medication and therapy. If the Bipolar individual is a danger to themselves and/or others, they are hospitalized and evaluated.

Many individuals who have Bipolar Disorders also have anxiety disorder.

There is a stigma associated with Bipolar Disorder. Society sees Bipolar individuals as psychotic, dangerous, and criminal. While there are Bipolar individuals who fall under the category of dangerous, not all of us are. Those of us who are in treatment (and take meds regularly) are able to function well in society. Those who do not accept treatment are the ones who are at risk for becoming dangerous to themselves and others.

Bipolar Disorder is serious and treatment is extremely important.

My story:
I am the product of two parents who suffer from mental illness. My dad suffers from depression, and my mom suffers from Bipolar Disorder. I have suffered from depression for most of my life. My first experience with depression happened when I was very very young.
In 2009, I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder. I will never forget that year. I was in college, working a double load, and holding down a full-time job. Around exam time, I noticed my behavior had changed. I became impulsive, irritable, stressed, abnormally happy, and incredibly depressed. I would be super manic, and then I would crash. I couldn't focus and I ended up failing my finals miserably. I was self-injuring and during a manic episode I dropped out of college. I remember walking around campus crying and freaking out.
I went to my doctor and she diagnosed me. I was almost hospitalized because she saw the cuts on my arms.
Luckily, I was able to find a good mix of medication that has stabilized me. I still have manic and depressive mood swings, but they do not last as long. I've spent time learning about what triggers my moods, and I'm able to identify which moods are the Bipolar Disorder, and which moods are my "normal" self. Knowing this, and using healthy coping techniques, has saved my life. If I weren't taking my medication regularly and not using healthy coping techniques, I wouldn't be here today.
Sometimes I DO forget to take my meds, and it really messes me up. I make sure I take my meds at the next dosage.

My Bipolar mood swings do scare me. I think about how frazzled my mind gets and I think about the extremes of my mood. My stress is always high, sometimes I am crying for no reason, and, at times, I experience psychosis. I think that people talk about me behind my back, and I think that people believe I am a worthless human being. I have it in my mind that these people don't think I'm good enough.
I don't talk about it with anyone, which IS a problem. I pretty much internalize it. Deep down, I know that those thoughts aren't true, it's just my Bipolar trying to trick me.
These issues (and more) are the reason why I make darn sure I take my medication. The last thing I need, and others need, is a meltdown. My meltdowns are NOT pretty.

It is important for Bipolar individuals to take meds regularly. Not doing so, even for a day, can trigger mood swings.

I was called every name in the book in grade school, and I was even stigmatized at a job for having Bipolar Disorder. Educating society about mental illness can help lower the rate of bullying and suicide.

The reason why I talk about my story is because I want others to know that they are NOT alone! I used to think that I was alone. I want to be the person I wish I had back in the day. We have to empower each other. We are the only ones who understand what we are going through.

Like I mentioned before, Us Bipolars are not dangerous. Most of us are receptive to treatment, and are able to function beautifully everyday. We are able to have stable relationships and raise children with no problem.
We don't deserve to be stigmatized. I will continue to fight for people who have mental illness(es). These are my people, and none of us deserve ill treatment from society. We are fighting a battle that you will never understand, and those of us in treatment fight the battle with a smile on our face.

Youtube star Bethany Mota delivers one of the best dances of all time on 'Dancing With The Stars."

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Youtube sensation Bethany Mota has been blowing up the stage with her dancing on DWTS. Last night, however, there wasn't a dry eye in the house.

Last night, the contestants picked a dance to describe their most memorable year, and 18 year old Bethany Mota told the world about her most memorable year: 2009. In 2009, she started her Youtube channel. She started it to help her with the bullying she faced from people she thought were her friends. Mota became very emotional during her interview, and it really allowed the viewers to get to know her as a young lady.
Alongside her 'dancing' partner, Derek Hough, Bethany danced to a live performance by Colbie Caillat. The song was entitled "Try." In the background, were the names that Mota was called while she was bullied by her "friends."

Toward the end of the dance routine, the words changed to "brave," "inspirational," and other positive words. It definitely showed Mota's journey beautifully.

Bethany is such a lovely young lady who is mature beyond her years. Derek and Bethany definitely delivered an important message about bullying.
I was bullied relentlessly during my childhood and adolescence (even most of my 20s). To hear a person of this current generation combat bullying in such a beautiful way is so encouraging. I didn't have that kind of message when I was young, but to know that young people have that message is just amazing to me.

I didn't even know who Bethany Mota was until watching DWTS. Reading her Wiki profile and watching a few of her videos, she sounds like an amazing young lady that children and teens can look up to.

Bethany and Derek scored a 33 out of 40 (which shocked me because they deserved a perfect score).

Bethany, you are an amazing young lady. Don't let anyone bring you down. Your dance was beautiful and your story is simply amazing.
Young people (and those my age and older), check out her Youtube Channel here!

If you want to see Bethany and Derek's beautiful dance, just hit play! Make sure you have a box of tissues next to you!

In other 'Dancing' news:
Lea Thompson and Artem also delivered a beautiful dance, which Thompson dedicated to the memory of her father. Lea and Artem scored a near perfect score of 39 out of 40. That dance was another tearjerker.

Why it is imperative that you speak to debt collectors about settling your debt..

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Receiving phone calls from a debt collector can make you sick to your stomach. It's an incessant reminder of how deep you are into debt. These debt collectors call multiple times per day, leave messages, and are sometimes rude to you. It is enough to make you want to put that debt collector's number on a call block app and just be done with it.

Problem is, you will not be done with it, and you will be making the problem exponentially worse. Sweeping your debt under the rug does not help you. It puts you, and your future, at risk. Nowadays, when you go to look for certain jobs, employers look at your credit rating. If you have a poor credit rating, you will not get hired. If you go to lease an apartment or a car, if you have poor credit, you will not be approved. If you are severely defaulting on your student loans, and are desperately wanting to go back to school, you will not be able to. Federal Student Loans are not given out to folks who are severely defaulted on their previous loans. So, if you are looking to finish that degree, you are out of luck.
One other thing I would like to add, if you are defaulting on your student loans, your interest rate goes up, and they are able to garnish your wages. You don't have to owe money to the IRS to have your wages taken away from you. Student loans can do that to you too!

My Story:
I made A TON of financial mistakes when I was in my 20s. I was extremely careless with credit cards. In my late 20s, I was doing pretty well with paying back that debt. When I hurt my back and could not work anymore, I defaulted on my credit card payments and student loans. I was in a pretty bad spot. I was getting hounded by several debt collectors, and I ended up getting a call block app so I didn't have to deal with the incessant calls and abuse from the "blood-sucking" debt collectors.
I hit rock bottom when I received a phone call from a debt collector working with my student loans. They told me that I am in a position where I cannot qualify for student loans. I was thinking about going back to school and finishing my degree. I figured, while I was recuperating from surgery, I could finish my psychology degree online and then go to grad school. Those plans quickly went out the window.
I decided that I needed to face the mess that I was in. I called this debt collector back and the gentleman was very nice and he was more than willing to work with me. I enrolled into a program where I can make minimum payments. As long as I make 9 consecutive payments, my student loans will get back into good standing and the student loan blemish on my credit rating will disappear. Not only that, I will be able to enroll in school and finish my degree. I just have to wait 9 months and pay small minimum payments first.
As far as my other debts are concerned, I am paying minimum payments to them as well. I worked out deals with half of them and am currently working out deals with the other half. I cannot tell you what a relief it is to know that these debt collectors are willing to work with me. I did half the work by answering the phone call and telling them that I want to work with them.

Moral of the story:
Folks, I know that some of you are in debt. These are scary times and many of us are in holes that are too big to dig out of. I know that these debt collectors are relentless. They are not the enemy. They don't want to spend their day calling the same number, only to be cursed out and hung up on. Also, they know what you're going through. They want you to make a change that will save your financial future.

While it may take me many years to be debt free, I know that I am on the right path. If you are in debt, work it out with your debt collector. If they are rude to you, speak to their supervisor. Explain to these people your situation, and they will be happy to work something out with you. I will never apply for a credit card again, even after I am debt free. Credit cards are trouble. You should never spend more than you have, which is why I love debit cards. They keep you in check.

If you're young, do not do what I did. Make good choices about money. My advice to you is, DO NOT GET CREDIT CARDS! If you do get a credit card, get one with a small credit line, like $300. Save it for emergencies (a death in the family, a family member becomes ill or injured and you need to book a last-minute flight, etc). Also, if you're going to school, make sure you pay your loans when you graduate. You will be saving yourself so much grief in the long run.

Quote of the day for 9/23/2014

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“You always pass failure on the way to success.”
-Mickey Rooney

We all want to be successful, but when it comes to the "road to success," not all of us reach the end. Whenever one reaches a 'bump in the road,' doubt tends to take over and you question whether or not you should finish the journey. We complain that it's too hard. We wonder if it is even worth it to continue on the road to success.

Let me tell you something: enduring failure and hardships is a part of the journey. It's the 'bump in the road' that builds the character needed in order to be ready for success. If we aren't ready to experience a little failure along the way, then we aren't ready for the end result. Nothing in life is ever easy. I know that better than anyone. I've been fighting and and surviving one thing or another since the day I was born. It's all I know. I haven't reached success yet. I'm still on my journey.
Success to me means finding inner peace and happiness. It is being truly content with who you are and never doubting that you are loved. It is putting others' first and taking care of yourself so you CAN take care of your loved ones when they need you.
People tell me that I'm a success. I disagree with them. I'm becoming a success. I'm not there yet. I still have to work through life's failures in order to reach my destination. The one thing that keeps me going is the faith that I will make it there someday.

Failure and success go hand-in-hand. While they are polar opposites, failure is what builds character and strength in order to achieve and appreciate success. Keep that in mind when you see yourself at a little 'bump in the road.'

Today is World Suicide Prevention Day **Trigger Warning**

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Today, September 10th, is World Suicide Prevention Day. 

At least 3,000 people around the world commit suicide on a daily basis. In a year, that equals to around 1 million people.
That number is just mind-boggling.

"Oh, they are just doing it for attention!"

That above statement is said by those who don't truly know what it means to be depressed enough to contemplate suicide. Those people don't take the time to understand what the other person is going through.
The world of a depressed person is dark and lonely. Life becomes a prison, a death sentence. Everyday is a nightmare that you cannot escape. You feel as if everyone would be better off if you were gone. You look at yourself in the mirror and all you feel is hate. You feel worthless, ugly, hopeless, and a burden on your loved ones. You feel as if no one cares whether you live or die.

See, these feelings are not felt by individuals "looking for attention." These feelings are painful and real. These individuals who are that depressed feel that there is no way out.

Thoughts of suicide are influenced by many triggers. Folks who are born with the genetic marker for depression are at a much higher risk for suicide.
Thoughts of suicide can also be caused by environmental, psycho-social, and cultural factors (in the depression and bipolar communities, we call these 'triggers').

World Suicide Prevention Day started in 2003 and it is run by IASP (the WHO also co-sponsors the event).
The goal of World Suicide Prevention Day is to:

• Raise awareness about suicide prevention
• Improve the public's knowledge about depression and suicide
• Have this awareness spread across the globe
• Attempt to eliminate the stigma that goes along with depression and suicide

My story:
I was born with the genetic marker for depression. Both my parents struggle with mental illness, so, of course, I was going to inherit some of those genes.
I have been clinically depressed since I was 7. I didn't have an ideal upbringing and I went through a lot of scary moments. Before I turned 8, I was hospitalized (in a psychiatric hospital) for scratching my arms until they bled. That was my first experience with cutting. I hated who I was, and those feelings increased as I got older. 
When I hit my teen years, my mental health was at its lowest point. I was diagnosed with severe Depression, Oppositional Defiance Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder, and Schizo-affective Disorder (Schizo-affective Disorder is MUCH different from Schizophrenia). I was in and out of psychiatric hospitals for 10 years (from ages 7 to 17). During this time, I was cutting with knives and I was suicidal. I tried choking myself in hopes of permanently passing out. I overdosed many many times (I once overdosed while I was in school). I tried slitting my own throat. I had some close calls. I didn't think I would make it to my 18th birthday (not many people did). My last suicide attempt happened around my 18th birthday. I was rushed to the hospital and treated.
I genuinely wanted to die. I was disliked by my peers, I put my dad through hell, and I felt like the most disgusting being on earth. I felt like my existence was a cruel joke. Boys wouldn't even talk to me because of my weight and I was bullied relentlessly.

I'm going to be 32 in December, and I'm in a much better place than I was back then. I haven't attempted suicide since before my 18th birthday. I haven't cut or burned myself since 2010. Do I still have thoughts about hurting myself? Yes. I just don't act on those thoughts. I've overcome a lot since then, but I still have my struggles, especially during tough times. In 2009, I was diagnosed with Bipolar Disorder and Panic Disorder. I take my meds every day and use coping techniques to help myself out of my depressive mood swings. I actually know when my thoughts are manic or depressive. When my Bipolar starts cycling, I have to remember to breathe and acknowledge that something is wrong. I take a step back, tell myself that these thoughts are due to my illness, and I problem-solve ways to overcome these thoughts. This method can take days, weeks, and even months, but I know that I'm in a good place, because I know what is happening and I refuse to give in to my disorder.

Conclusion:
Suicide is 100% preventable. If you are having thoughts of suicide, please talk to someone. There are people out there that DO understand. I know all too well about these thoughts. I'm always available to talk to you if you need someone to vent to or cry to. I didn't have anyone that I could talk to, and I spent a lot of time in my 20s wanting to be THAT PERSON who could be there for someone who is going through what I went through.
I know how real your feelings are, and I know how real your desire is to end your life. Please don't do it. There is hope. I'm walking proof that things can turn around. I'm glad to be alive. I'm glad that I didn't succeed in my attempts all those years ago. You just have to take it one day at a time. If that is too long, take things one minute or one hour at a time.

You CAN be a success story too. Please don't give up on yourself. We are much stronger than we realize. You may not believe that you can be a success, but just read my story and understand that things CAN change for you too.

The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is a number I have called (a family member was contemplating suicide and I called to get them help), and the people on the other line are caring, wonderful people. They are available 24/7/365.
Please call them if you need someone to talk to. Their number is: 1-800-273-TALK.
Also, if you want to chat with me, you can email me at: shausil82@gmail.com

Friends in need

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 Being a web writer has some great perks: You can work from home, wear PJs, listen to your favorite music instead of boring music that is played in an office, and much more.

But, there are also some downfalls to being a web writer. While the money can be great, it can also be unpredictable. You may have a fantastic month or week, and then have nothing come in the next month. Also, if you're a web writer, you have to worry about the sites you contribute to shutting down.
When income suddenly stops coming in, you are left in an extremely tight spot. You struggle to pay your bills, you struggle to buy food, and you struggle to keep a roof over your head.

Two of my writer friends are in a serious bind: my friends Lyn and Briana.

Lyn is my web writer mentor and she is a great friend. Last month, she lost her job at Yahoo Contributor when the site decided to close down. Now that her money-making job is gone, she is struggling financially. In fact, the problem is so severe that she is losing her home in less than 3 weeks. She has four kids and two dogs. It breaks my heart to know that someone so amazing and talented is going to be on the streets, unless something miraculous happens. Lyn has set up a GoFundMe account and is trying to raise money to help her family move into a new home.
She is grateful for anything that people can contribute. You can read more about her story and donate here: http://www.gofundme.com/helplynmove. To read her work, visit: http://www.writewavemedia.com/

My friend Briana is also in a bind. Briana is an incredible writer and an amazing artist. Her roommate just moved out and Briana and her husband cannot afford a place of their own. They are extremely hard-working people, but they too will be homeless unless they raise the money they need to get their own place. Briana and Eric are grateful to anyone who can donate. No amount is too small since every little bit helps. To read more about Briana and Eric's situation and to donate, visit: http://www.gofundme.com/dhleos. To see Briana and Eric's amazing work, visit: http://bluedragoncreations.com/wordpress/

Please, please help these two families out! They are good people who just need a chance.

Quote of the day (9/7/2014)

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Today's quote of the day is about growing and being out of our comfort zone.

“If we're growing, we're always going to be out of our comfort zone.” - John Maxwell

 Life is all about growth. There is job growth, family growth, spiritual growth, emotional growth, etc. We never stop growing, and we shouldn't even try to escape the process. We need to grow. How do we better ourselves if we don't continue to grow?

A lot of people try to stay the way they are because they are afraid to leave their comfort zone. They are afraid of the unknown.

It is okay to be afraid. Heck, I am afraid of the unknown, but I never doubt that I am strong enough to handle what ever comes my way.
Through a tough upbringing to bad experiences in my love life, to health issues, to poverty, and to a serious back surgery, I knew that I could handle what ever comes my way. While I continue to battle recovering from a serious back surgery, I know that I can get through it. It's helping me to grow emotionally (and somewhat physically). The past year and a half, I've been way out of my comfort zone. My life before was easier to manage. Everything now depends on whether or not I'm having a bad pain day. I work around my pain.
In some aspects, life is slowly getting easier. In other aspects, I am still struggling. I constantly remind myself that I'm growing, I'm strong, and despite being out of my comfort zone, I will overcome this.

We underestimate how strong we really are. We need to realize our strength, accept the process, continue to grow, and understand that being out of our comfort zone is actually a GOOD thing.

Is "Full House" making a comeback?

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Well, if recent reports ring true, we might be seeing our favorite wholesome family coming back into our living rooms and our hearts.

For some time, fans have been wondering if this show would make the same comeback as "Boy Meets World" recently did. With BMW sequel "Girl Meets World" becoming a ratings goldmine on the Disney Channel, perhaps the producers of "Full House" are thinking that they could have the same luck.

The hit show, which ran from 1987 to 1995, was about a widow who enlists the help of his brother-in-law and his best friend to help raise his three daughters.

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While nothing is set in stone, it looks like most of the cast is on board for a revival. John Stamos, Bob Sagat, Candace Cameron Bure, Jodie Sweetin, and Andrea Barber are all on board with working on a sequel to the show. Cast members who haven't gotten on board as of yet are Lori Loughlin, Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen, Scott Weinger, Blake and Dylan Tuomy–Wilhoit, and Dave Coulier.
Producers of the hit show have been in talks with Warner Bros studio about the sequel and John Stamos has been actively involved in the meetings.

It's no secret that the cast is still close 20 years after the show ended its run. Most of the cast regularly gets together and are seen together in public. The only cast members who haven't stayed in touch are Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen. It is well-known that the Olsen twins didn't have the best experience on the show. They started on the show as an infant, and were only 7 or 8 years old when the show was cancelled.

As someone who grew up watching "Full House" every Friday night on TGIF, I am pretty stoked about this news. I always wondered what could have happened to these characters if the show has continued. I wondered if DJ and Steve got married and had kids. I wondered what Stephanie would have done after high school. I wondered what Michelle would have done with her life.
If a sequel is green-lighted, I hope that everyone comes back, including the Olsen twins.

What do you guys think about a "Full House" sequel? Would it work? What do you think happened to the characters after the show ended?

It's been awhile!

Good afternoon everyone!

I know it's been quite some time since I have written. It's been quite hectic on my end. I have been busy with physical therapy and recovering from my back surgery (I had a lumbar fusion on June 10th). My recovery has been challenging, but I think that I'm heading in a good direction. My physical therapist has been stretching me out before I do my usual workout routine, and the stretching has really helped me. The pain levels have been going down and it's been a blessing because I been desperate to get off of my painkillers.
This past week, I ended up catching a nasty stomach flu, which has elevated my pain levels. I had to miss Friday's physical therapy appointment and rest. I'm still a little queasy, but the worst seems to be behind me. The body aches are still with me and I've had to return to the painkillers since Tylenol hasn't been cutting it. I've had to take a sabbatical from writing in order to rest up.

Another thing I've been working on is writing for clients. I have been a part of a platform called Zerys for almost a year and there is a potential for me to make some serious money on there if I put in the time and effort. It's been a challenging experience, but I've been able to hold my own against some of the best writers on the site. I maintain a 4.5 out of 5 star rating, which is pretty good, considering I don't have a degree in English Literature or Journalism.

Anyways, I'm going to continue my sabbatical from writing until Monday. I can't write if I'm sick. I'm a bit of a perfectionist and it will gnaw at me if I put out work that is terrible. Yesterday, I made the terrible decision to work on a project and after I sent it off to my client, I realized that it was probably my worst work for this client. It's been eating away at me ever since, LOL!

I hope everyone has a great weekend, and I will be back to the grind on Monday!

Before I close, I wanted to send a shout out to my friend Sharla Lovelace. She has a new book out called "Stay With Me." I've read a few of her books and she is an amazing writer. She writes Texas romance stories.
Check out her new book, "Stay With Me." Also, check out some of my favorite books from her ("The Reason is You" is my favorite book of hers. It's such a beautiful story):

Quote of the day (8/15/2014)

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“Art is the most intense mode of individualism that the world has known.”
-Oscar Wilde

One thing that I respect about artists is that none of them created their art in the same manner. Each artist did something different. Each one put a little bit of themselves into their work in order to make it 'theirs.'

We seem to be losing that as the years go on. There was so much in terms of individualism back in the day. Nowadays, we have music that sounds exactly the same, art that looks the same, and many book plots that we've all heard before. There is not individuality. Either a person is copying an icon of the past, or they are trying to 'one-up' the competitor next to them.

What happened to us as artists? Why are people coloring in between the lines?
When I was in college, I took a lot of art classes. I loved art. Most people took art as a 'bird course.' I took it because art made all the chaos in my world go silent. I was able to fully relax. It was my therapy.
When I took Drawing I and II, my professor both loved and hated my drawing techniques. I sort of steered off course from my classmates and did my own thing. Sure, I'd be drawing that bowl of fruit, but I would be adding warmth to it and shade. In my eyes, it came out beautifully. My professor hated it at first because it wasn't textbook. After the first half of the semester, he began to love it. He said that it was my signiture technique (I also loved using charcoal. I was the messiest person in class because my hands would be completely blackened from the charcoal, LOL).

I've always been the one who 'colors outside the lines' in terms of the way I live my life. Sure, I've tried to submit to what society expects of me. But, I realized that it wasn't ME. I was born to be different. I'm an individual.
Even with writing, I don't follow the rules. Sure, I know the basics and I know when I need to obey the rules. However, during my 'off time,' I'm going to do my own thing. When I'm doing with for clients, I'm professional. When I'm working on my blogs, I'm casual. Even in my professional pieces, I add bits of my character in it. I don't want my posts to be one-note.

Folks, Oscar Wilde is right on with this quote. You won't find more individualism than in the works of art.

The amazing health benefits of Ginger

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Ginger, known the world over as a spicy ingredient, is the underground rhizome of the ginger plant. The ginger plant produces bright red flowers that come in various shapes and sizes, such as honeycomb and torch. Also known as Zingiber Officinale, it is native to lush, tropical settings, such as Indo-Malaysia.

Not only does this ingredient spice up your meals, it is also known to be a natural health remedy.
 
Ginger can alleviate nausea Ginger has been known to cure nausea without the side effects of medication. Anything from morning sickness to motion sickness, add a little ginger to your tea, and you will begin to feel better.  

My Recommendation:
*One thing that I use to alleviate my nausea is Ginger Chews by the Ginger People brand. I have actually added the product to my Amazon store if you wanted to take a look at it. It sells for $2.22. To get to the store, click on the photo and go to page 3.*

Ginger is good for your bones
Ginger has been known to boost bone health and alleviate joint pain.

Ginger helps the immune system
The effects of ginger help reduce the body's alarm to damaged cells in the body. Ginger acts like a barrier to higher levels of protastaglandin, which produce fever and headaches.

Interesting fact: In the 16th century, Queen Elizabeth I of England was a fan of ginger. She was actually the person who invented the gingerbread man. Soon after, she began to introduce it at the Royal ball. The gingerbread men were made to look like those in the royal family.

With all the added benefits of ginger, it is definitely worth stocking it in your household.

Quote of the day (08/13/2014) *Special Robin Williams edition*

*Good morning, everyone! I wanted to start a new series on The Water Cooler. On Bubblews, I used to have a series called: "Quote of the Day." It was very popular with my readers and I've had a few requests for it from a few friends of mine. 
Since we are all still mourning the loss of Robin Williams, I wanted to pick a quote from one of his most loved movies, "Dead Poets Society." It also happens to be one of my favorite movies.*

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“No matter what people tell you, words and ideas can change the world.”
-Robin Williams

Robin Williams changed the world with his infectious, larger than life personality and sense of humor. He had a love of making people laugh. He made it his life's work to make millions of people roar with laughter. People who have had a bad day can turn on one of his comedy routines or one of his movies and just get lost in his comedy.

Anyone who sets out to share their sense of humor with the world in order to make the world laugh is a pretty amazing person.

No matter what it is that we want to do, if we have an idea of what we want to do with our lives, we can go out and do it. A lot of us have dreams as kids of what we want to be when we grow up. Some of us grow up wanting to be actors, cops, doctors, singers, dancers, etc. We get told by naysayers that our dreams are "far-fetched." Some kids may even want to change how things are done in the world. Perhaps they grew up with a relative who was sick and they want to be the one who finds a cure for the ailment. Again, a naysayer will tell them that their dream is "far-fetched."
Why are we so quick to shoot down young people's ideas of finding cures and changing the world? If you have a dream for this world, don't let anyone stop you from achieving it. Einstein had a dream, and look at all he accomplished. 
We can all do what ever it is we set our minds to. Any one of us has the possibility of changing the world. Share yourself with the world.

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Again, my heart is still broken and in shock about Robin Williams' passing. As someone who shares the history of depression, I know the struggle. I've been moved to see so many people bringing attention to how serious depression and mental illness is. I've been moved to see the suicide helpline passed around so many times. I'm glad that the message is getting passed around.
RIP Robin Williams!

I am going to put the suicide helpline number on here because I really want to encourage people to call if they are in crisis. The people on the other side of the line are amazing and caring people. They are always there for you when you need someone. If you're in despair, thinking about suicide, or thinking about harming yourself, PLEASE CALL 1-800-273-TALK.

Remembering Robin Williams 1951-2014 (and an important message about depression)

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Yesterday, the world lost an amazing and iconic performer. Robin Williams was found dead at his home of an apparent suicide. He was 63 years old. He leaves behind a loving wife and three children.
Williams had been in the entertainment industry for several decades and captured the hearts of millions around the world. Some of his most notable works include: "Mork and Mindy," "Good Morning, Vietnam," "Dead Poet's Society," "Mrs. Doubtfire," "Hook," "Aladdin," and "The Birdcage."

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While he delighted the world through his stand up comedy and through the small and big screen, he battled inner demons behind the scenes. He battled a cocaine addiction in the 1970s and early 1980s. The death of his friend John Belushi and the birth of his son Zak helped him overcome his addictions.
After being sober for 20 years, he relapsed in 2003 and checked himself into treatment in 2006.
Williams also battled depression and possible Bipolar disorder.
Depression (and Bipolar disorder) are serious mental disorders. Once these illnesses take hold of a person, it severely impacts the life and spirit of the person.

My story:
I should know because I battle with both of these illnesses every day of my life. I've battled depression for most of my life, and I've battled Bipolar disorder since 2009. I know what it's like to be so low that the only way out is to end your life. I've stared at sharp objects, a bottle of pills, a bottle of alcohol, a rope, and wondered if everyone in my life would be better off without me. In fact, I have overdosed, too many times. I've had some close-calls. While I don't know Robin Williams personally, his death hits home for me, since he is a brother in the fight against depression.
While I am in treatment for both illnesses, I do have low moments, especially during trigger points and stressful times. But I have techniques to overcome my thoughts. I use coping techniques and talk myself out of my low points. I write. I talk to someone. I do what I can so I don't harm myself. Since 2000, I have not attempted suicide, and since 2011, I have not self-harmed. I will battle this for the rest of my life, but I know how to talk myself out of hurting myself.

Robin Williams is someone that I loved watching in movies (and on "Mork and Mindy"). My favorite movie of his was "Mrs. Doubtfire." Williams had this larger than life personality and you couldn't help but fall in love with him.
I am still in shock that he is gone. The entire world is in shock. He was one of my all-time favorite actors and he will be forever missed.

RIP Robin Williams! You will be forever loved and adored!

Readers: What is your favorite Robin Williams movie?

*If you are (or someone you know is) struggling with depression, please call 1-800-273-TALK. Someone is available to speak with you 24/7/365. These people truly care about what you are going through and want to help you. Please call if you are in crisis.*

The amazing health benefits of Dark Chocolate

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Do you have a sweet tooth? If you like chocolate, you will be pleased to know that dark chocolate is actually very good for you. Dark chocolate contains heart-healthy phytochemicals which benefit both the mind and the body. There is an abundance of anti-oxidants found in dark chocolate, and an abundance of healthy benefits to gain from eating dark chocolate.

Dark chocolate is heart-healthy
If you eat a small amount of dark chocolate a few times a week, it can help lower your blood pressure. Not only that, dark chocolate can improve blood flow and prevent blood clots.

Dark chocolate is healthy for your brain
Dark chocolate has been shown to improve brain function and blood flow. It has also been shown to be a mood stabilizer.

Dark chocolate is full of vitamins and minerals
Dark chocolate contains potassium, copper, magnesium, and iron. These vitamins and minerals help protect you from strokes, cardiovascular diseases, iron deficiency anemia, type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, and heart disease.

These benefits and many others are a very good reason to indulge in a little bit of dark chocolate.

If you are a fan of dark chocolate, I've added two of my favorite dark chocolate treats to my Amazon store. They are at an amazing price. Grab some today! Click on the photo to visit my Amazon store!

Newest distraction while driving: "Selfie while driving."

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I'm sure most of you have heard of "selfies." It's when you take a picture of yourself. "Selfies" have become the newest distraction while driving. The Huffington Post came out with some startling statistics.

On Instagram, there are 3 million pictures that are hash tagged with "driving". There are 55,000 pictures that are hash tagged with "driving home." Nine thousand pictures are hash tagged with "driving to work," and another 3,500 photos hash tagged with "driving selfie."

Seriously.

I thought the "selfie" fad was a little ridiculous. Being in my 30s, I just don't see the point in taking hundreds of "selfies" per day. When I read about young people taking "selfies" while driving, I get a little angry. Actually, I get very angry. I am a huge supporter of the "It Can Wait" campaign. It's a campaign that talks about the dangers of distracted driving. I am against all forms of distracted driving. I keep my phone off and in my pocket(or purse) while I am driving. No call, email, text, etc is worth my life, or someone else's life.

It is not "cute" to take a "selfie" while you're driving. All you are doing is becoming a nuisance and a danger to society. People who are on their cell phones, as they drive, should have their license suspended for the rest of their lives. I have a big hatred for distracted drivers. I've actually conducted mental studies while being a passenger in a car. I would look at drivers on the road. More than half of them are on their phones. If a call is really THAT important, pull over.

What You Should Know About "The Dukan Diet"

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To get started on "The Dukan Diet," click on the above photo. The book is currently available in my Amazon store for a great price!

An international hit in over 100 countries is set to invade America.
Established in France in 2000, by Dr. Pierre Dukan, the Dukan Diet eliminates calorie counting and stands behind its promise of permanent weight loss. By permitting it's clients to eat as much as they like, it has been the number one diet in France for 10 years.
The Dukan Diet encourages a high protein, low cholesterol, and low fat lifestyle that helps you develop healthy eating habits, which helps you lose weight and keep it off.

The Dukan Diet is composed of four steps: two steps for weight loss and two steps to keep it off.

Attack Phase
The first step is the attack phase. This stage encourages a diet of pure lean protein, which helps jump start your weight loss. The attack phase lasts 5 to 10 days, and you are encouraged to exercise 20 minutes a day by walking. Some of the allowed foods include: lean beef, chicken, turkey, ham, eggs, and shellfish.

Cruise Phase
The cruise phase consists of alternating between vegetables and pure protein. Dr. Dukan recommends that you eat vegetables one day, pure protein the next, and so on. The allowed vegetables in this phase include: asparagus, broccoli, cauliflower, celery, mushrooms, onion, and spinach. A 30 minute walk is recommended during this phase.

Consolidation Phase
At this phase, you will be learning how to keep the weight off. If you've reached your goal weight, you should figure out how much weight you have lost. For every pound you have lost, you should maintain the phase for 5 days. Some additional foods can be added to your diet at this time: 1 portion of fruit per day, wholegrain rice, and wholegrain pasta. Make sure you set aside one day a week for pure protein. Dr. Dukan recommends picking Thursday.

Stabilization Phase
This is where you construct rules for life that will guide you so you don't gain weight again.
During each of the phases, keep your activity level high. Walk whenever you can. Also, dieters are encouraged to eat oat bran daily, as it aids in digestion and keeps you full longer. You are encouraged to stay hydrated throughout the day and to drink water while you eat.

This diet has been hit with a lot of controversy as of late, being linked to Kate Middleton's weight loss. It has also been reported that it is low in vitamin c and high in salt.

While a lot of new diet fads are susceptible to public controversy, it is always recommended that you speak to a physician and/or nutritionist before beginning any weight loss program.

Dr. Pierre Dukan's book, "The Dukan Diet," is now available for purchase. The book is also available for download on Amazon Kindle and Nook.

How to Handle the Situation when He Doesn't Call After a Date

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Ever sat in front of your phone (or computer), expecting to hear back from a man that you had a great date with? I'm sure most of you have. You sit there thinking about how handsome the man was, how great the conversation was, and how delicious the dinner was. A smile appears on your face and you light up inside. However, you realize that it's been about a week, and you haven't heard from him.

Suddenly, the smile disappears and you feel puzzled: 

"Maybe he forgot my number." 

"Maybe something horrible happened to him." 

"Maybe he is busy at work, he is very important, you know." 

"Maybe he is dealing with a family emergency?"

We fail to realize the possibility that the date may not have been as good for him as it was for us. We fail to realize that he doesn't care to maintain contact with you, because, well, he didn't connect with you.

We call him, thinking that maybe he forgot your number. He doesn't answer. You leave a message on his voice mail, with your number included in the message. He doesn't call back. The next day, you call him again. It goes straight to voice mail. You leave a message, and again, he doesn't call back. Now, disappointment ensues. "Why hasn't he called?" "Why hasn't he called ME back?"

There are two sides to every story.

Dating is a he said/she said environment. If both the male and female have a different story about how a date went, obviously you both didn't connect on a higher level. In your eyes, the date went well. He smiled a lot, listened to you talk, maintained eye contact with you, and hugged you before parting ways. All the signs of interest were there.

Or were they?

Guys go on dates in order to see what kind of woman sparks their interest, on a deeper level. True, you met the qualifications, appearance-wise, but, did you spark his interest, intellectually? If he isn't making contact with you after the date, you may not have sparked his interest. He doesn't know how to tell you he isn't interested, because he's afraid of hurting your feelings.

"Well, I called him...why didn't he call me back?"

The primal nature of the male is that they are the hunters. If they want something bad enough, they get it, including women.

Guys like being in charge, so if a woman pursues a man, they are less likely to be interested in you. Yes, we live in more progressive times, but, dating is still an old-fashioned environment. Don't take control of the situation. Let him lead.

If a man is truly interested in a woman, it doesn't matter how busy a guy is, he makes the call. Sometimes, he may call a few times a day, even if he hates the phone. If you've stolen the man's heart, he will bend over back words to make you happy. Guys find a way to communicate with the object of their desire.

"So, he isn't interested in me. Now what?"

Live your life as you did before you went out to dinner with 'Mr. Handsome/Nice Smile.' It isn't the end of the world if you didn't meet his interest. Not all guys meet YOUR interest, right? I'm sure you don't call those guys back. Like men, you don't know how to tell them you don't like them and you don't want to hurt their feelings. Both sexes do it, so it's hard to hold either in a higher standard.

Dating is a he said/she said environment, an old-fashioned environment. If both the male and female have a different story about how a date went, obviously you both didn't connect. If a guy doesn't call you, it isn't the end of the world. Keep living your life, and the right guy will come around when you least expect it.

Maintaining Relationship Boundaries and Loving from Afar

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Relationships can be exciting, intoxicating, and overall powerful. But, they can be a world of trouble if you allow it to take control over your entire life.

Once you begin a relationship, many people are at risk of spending TOO much time with their new loves and less time with their friends and family. We've all done it. When things begin to get serious in a relationship, life becomes more of a "we" and less of an "I." While becoming a "we" in life is pretty exciting, you need to remember that alone time in relationships is just as important as together time in relationships.

What I mean is, if you spend TOO much time together, you could grow tired of your love and begin to resent them. Spending time apart is healthy. Let your significant other have some alone time. Let them watch TV on their own, or play computer games by themselves for a few hours. Let them go out with their friends and not go with them. Go out with your friends without your other half. Watch TV on your own. Go for a walk by yourself. Take yourself out.

Just because you are in a relationship, it doesn't mean you stop the relationship you have with yourself. You NEED to keep strengthening that relationship you have with yourself. You need to keep that self-esteem leveled. You need to keep your confidence there. Yes, you want to spend time with the one you love, but, in love, you also need to make sacrifices for the one you love. Give the one you love some space to breath and be on their own for a little bit. You know they love you. You know they are coming home to you. Why spend 24/7 with them when you know you will spend the rest of your life with them?
Also, you need this time alone just as much as they do. Get stuff done too. You know you have stuff to do. Tackle that project that you've been putting off. In no time, that gnawing feeling to go sit by your beloved will fade away and you will be focused on your project. Time will fly by, and you and your beloved will soon reunite and it will be perfect.

Friends, you NEED boundaries in any relationships, and in marriages. If you love the person(s) in your life, give them the space they need to keep them sane. You aren't neglecting them by giving them the space. You are LOVING them from afar. :-)

The amazing health benefits of Broccoli

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Broccoli has many nutrients and is a rich source of biochemicals that aid in preventing illness and diseases. Broccoli is a common find in Europe, the United States, and in Australia. Along with being a tasty side dish, broccoli also has a ton of wonderful health benefits.

Broccoli is a natural "wonder-drug" for cancer.
The biochemicals in broccoli have been known to fight cancer. A powerful chemical called isothiocyanates, may be able to stimulate certain enzymes that are produced by the liver. These enzymes counteract the effect of cancer cells that enter the body. The chemicals may even slow down the progression of cancer.

Broccoli can boost your immune system.
One cup of broccoli has the recommended daily allowance for Vitamin C. It can also help strengthen your immune system, due to the fact that broccoli contains a high amount of beta-carotene.

Broccoli is healthy for women who are pregnant.
One serving of broccoli contains folic acid, which is essential for accurate cell division. If you do not have enough folic acid, there is a risk of birth defects. If you have questions or concerns about this, be sure to consult your doctor. Broccoli is also high in fiber, which will aid in getting rid of symptoms of constipation during pregnancy.

Broccoli is chock full of nutrients. Some of these nutrients include: carbohydrates, omega-3 fatty acids, protein, Vitamin A, B-complex, Vitamin C, Vitamin E, beta-carotene, calcium, iron, magnesium, potassium, and many more.
For a healthy side dish, include some broccoli in with your dinner tonight.

The amazing health benefits of Garlic

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Garlic may cause bad breath, but, it also has an abundance of health benefits. Since the dawn of time, people have used garlic to cure illnesses. Popularly used in Folk Medicine, garlic is said to have the ability to cure almost anything.
There are two main medicinal ingredients in garlic: allicin and diallyl sulphides. The sulphurous compounds inside garlic adds to the power in this popular cooking ingredient.

There are many benefits to adding a little more garlic into your life.

Garlic protects against cancer.Compounds in garlic have been shown to protect the body from various cancers:

1. Stomach cancer: Garlic may be able to lower the ability of H.Pylori, which causes stomach cancer and ulcers.
2. Colon cancer: Garlic may be able to protect colon cells from toxins, and even prevent the growth of cancer, if it does develop.
3. Breast cancer: If you add garlic to your cooking, it may help reduce the carcinogenic chemicals in cooked meat. Carcinogenic chemicals have been linked to breast cancer.

Garlic is a natural pain reducer.
Garlic has been shown to reduce pain and inflammation associated with Rheumatoid Arthritis and Osteoarthritis.

Garlic can repel mosquitoes.
Throughout history, garlic has been used as a way to protect against mosquitoes.

Garlic can boost the immune system.
The anti-viral, anti-bacterial, and anti-fungal properties in garlic, have been known to ward off illnesses. If you have a skin condition caused by bacteria, fungus, or yeast, it can be treated by chopping up a clove of garlic, and rubbing it on the affected area.

Naming just a few of the health benefits of garlic, you can see why it is important to keep garlic as a staple in your diet.

The amazing health benefits of blueberries

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Blueberries are primarily native to North America and east Asia. However, the demand for blueberries has countries throughout the world harvesting this super fruit. North America makes up for 90% of the blueberry harvest. Its popularity may have something to do with the fact that blueberries are full of beneficial nutrients.

Packed with Vitamin C, one serving of blueberries contain 25% of your daily vitamin C requirement. Vitamin C promotes healthy gums, iron absorption, and it can help boost your immune system.
Worried that you are not getting enough fiber? One serving of blueberries can help you meet your daily requirement of dietary fiber. The amount of vitamins, sodium, copper, fructose, and acids in blueberries, aids in improving digestion.

Blueberries have the highest amounts of anti-oxidants, as it is rich in vitamins B, E and A. Also, blueberries are rich in copper, selenium, zinc, and iron. The anti-oxidants in blueberries can also help prevent peptic ulcers, glaucoma, and heart disease. Studies have also shown that blueberries also help in preventing Alzheimer's Disease.

Not only does this delicious super fruit prevent illness, it may also aid in reducing your waistline. A study was conducted, using rats as the test subject. Rats where given blueberry powder for 90 days. After the 90 days, the rats were shown to have less fat on their abdomen. Blueberries have also proven to be beneficial to your vision. A compound called anthcyanosides has shown to slow down vision loss.

Blueberries can keep you alert, active, and in a good mood (they have been shown to be a good anti-depressant). If you are looking for an alternative to medicine, pick up some blueberries for a tasty treat that will make you happy, keep your waistline trim, and prevent illness.